brain on limerence

What Is Limerence?

What is limerence? In this video, relationship strategist Coach Lee, discusses the mental state of limerence and what you can do if your spouse or ex boyfriend/girlfriend is having a limerence affair or rebound relationship.

Coach Lee compares limerence vs love and discusses what you can do if they are infatuated with this other person (known as the limerent object). 

If your marriage is in trouble and/or you are separated due to your spouse (or boyfriend/girlfriend) having a limerence affair, Coach Lee’s video explains what is going on and why it seems you can’t compete with this other person or even effectively communicate with your ex.

Limerence is a state of mind where people often leave marriages or long term, stable relationships to, instead, be with someone they haven’t known for a long time at all but have amazing, sky-high feelings for.

Dr. Tennov studied people in this situation and coined the term/word limerence.

Coach Lee will also discuss how you may fight for the heart of the one you love.

When a spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend is experiencing limerence, they are under the influence of the chemicals associated with that mental state. It could be described as a chemical addiction to some degree.

Those brain chemicals include dopamine and serotonin and the person experiencing Limerence craves the associated highs and sensations.

The desire to experience these intense moments will often overshadow any risk associated with the relationship.

People in a limerent relationship often risk losing a marriage or career and are even willing to give up both in order to keep or protect the relationship.

The spouse in limerence with another person is addicted to those chemical highs (or alterations) and is often chasing the greatest high experienced in the relationship.

What they don’t realize is that they can never duplicate that high again – though they might come close. It is this chase and pursuit that creates a major distraction in the life of the person caught up in this situation.

To get Coach Lee’s explanation of limerence and how it affects you, watch the video above or watch “What is Limerence?” On YouTube.

by Coach Lee – As the developer of the Emergency Breakup Kit, he has constantly improved and upgraded his strategies to help people get back with their ex boyfriend, ex girlfriend, or spouse.