Does the No Contact Rule work for marriages who are separated or where one spouse wants a divorce?
Can you save your marriage with the No Contact Rule?
In the video above and this post relationship expert Coach Lee discusses whether the No Contact Rule can help marriages that are in danger of divorce or separation (or are already separated). Continue reading →
Note Before You Watch! The answers provided are REAL but they are READ.
These are NOT live interviews. It was better for these two dumpers to write out their answers and then read them so that they were deliberate about what they shared and felt good about their answers after giving it some thought. Continue reading →
I’d like to thank The List TVfor having me on their show. The video turned out great! -Coach Lee
During the lock downs that most people experienced, a lot of people turned to virtual dating since restaurants, movie theaters, and coffee shops were forced to close their doors.
Dating with Facetime, Zoom, Skype or whatever other similar services that can be used for video/virtual dating provides a much more personal touch when compared to messages on an app or website.
It’s even far superior to live chat, but that part is pretty obvious.
A lot of how one could approach virtual dating to have best results revolves around three things:
Though I cover this in the video, the basics are that video/virtual dating highlights your ability to carry a conversation.
It’s important to come across well.
To be attractive, interesting, and fun.
Having a pre-written list of things to talk about, stories to tell, questions to ask, etc. can be a terrific thing.
Over time, you can add to that list or remove what doesn’t work.
Though it might seem obvious to most, being a dating coach I hear a lot of interesting (and slightly disturbing stories) of awkward actions on dates and that includes virtual dates.
As I mention in the video above, I’ve heard stories of people seeming distracted by others in the room, eating (when they were the only one), and even using a tooth pick (she had eaten prior to the date and had things stuck in her teeth – needless to say, he didn’t want another virtual date).
Reading a book on etiquette or ask close friends about your own.
Get your lighting right. If the date is at night with no natural light able to come through a window, you need to have another source of lighting.
Ring lights work well and aren’t expensive.
At least take a look at how you appear no screen before the date because you want to be able to highlight your face without looking like you are in a horror flick.
Nashville, Tennessee, relationship coach Lee Wilson thought it was odd when one of his clients recently asked to meet with him at a golf course. Once he got there, he understood why: His client had already called a divorce lawyer. “He said, ‘I had to get away from her.’ ”
Just another couple driven to divorce amid quarantine tensions? Yes and no. “I knew they were already having trouble,” says Wilson, but being locked down together by COVID-19 made it worse.
“If a couple is having trouble, most of their interactions will be neutral or negative. But now (tension) is constant and in their face and they’re not able to have their typical routines, like doing their own things,” says Lee, a couples coach for 20 years and founder of myexbackcoach.com, which offers online courses, videos and products such as “emergency breakup kits.”
Count this as another in a long list of negative impacts of the coronavirus pandemic: It has the potential to send America’s divorce rate – already embarrassing at nearly 50% – even higher once divorce courts are fully open again.
The now-familiar stresses of quarantine – money worries, boredom, lack of escape from each other, conflicts over the kids, conflicts over chores, lack of exercise – are forcing many couples to reconsider how they really feel about their partners, say lawyers and marriage counselors.
Even divorcing celebrities are feeling the COVID-19 effect: When Mary-Kate Olsen sought an emergency divorce from husband Olivier Sarkozy in New York City, she was turned away because it wasn’t deemed an “essential” matter in New York’s pandemic-closed courts. …full story
I have completed my first lesson on TED as one of their educators.
My first offering there is a lesson on limerence and the science behind being in love (and madly so).
It’s interesting to me that we are at a point in the world of science and biology that we can map the brain to determine where “feelings,” or more accurately stated, “drives,” come from within us. Continue reading →